If you feel like your sex life is all but alive and kicking, don’t worry. Sparking new flames and having a good time is easier than you think, and we have the best tips and tricks for you. Following them will allow you to see sex from a whole different perspective. So, let’s get started.
Find Porn You Both Like
Looking into porn is the first thing you’ll want to do. The reason for that is very simple — it’s a turn-on! We all watch erotic videos or read erotic novels. Sharing them with our partners can sometimes be embarrassing. How so? Well, some of us don’t want our partners to judge our interests. However, we all have kinks, and sharing them can help spice up your sex life in more ways than one — especially if you do it in the form of dirty talk.
The first thing you’ll want to do is share the kind of porn you like. After that, you can talk about likes and dislikes, as well as trying something new. You can even watch the porn in question. Whatever you end up doing, it will surely be a turn-on. That will be enough to lead to some spicy sex you haven’t had in a long time.
Dive Into the Kama Sutra
This sex tip is for adventurous couples. We know that doing missionary all the time can get somewhat boring. So, what do you do about it? Looking into new positions to try is certainly one of the things.
New positions don’t just come to mind to all people. Plus, not everyone can enjoy them all. If you’ve skipped our first tip about watching porn, finding new things to do might be even more difficult. That’s where Kama Sutra comes into play.
This book of Hindu texts deals with numerous sex positions that will show you the way toward bliss. You can pick and choose whatever looks best or make a game out of it. Flip a coin, play rock-paper-scissors, or do whatever else you want to decide what you should try next to reach orgasm.
Kama Sutra will offer you so much more than just sex positions. After you try a few of them, you’ll see just how addictive it is to try new things. That’s what’s going to bring back the flame between partners.
Cut Out Quickies
A quickie is a great way for both partners to be satisfied. However, are they really as good as people claim? That depends. Quickies can be filled with passion and sexual pleasure, but they don’t last as long as many would want. Well, hence the name.
If you’re trying to resurrect your sex life, quickies aren’t your best friend. In fact, they can do more harm than good. What you’re really looking for is intimacy. To achieve that, you’ll need lots of fun foreplay, intercourse that lasts longer than a minute, and some cuddles after.
Work on Fighting More Fairly
We are all familiar with make-up sex. It’s yet another type of sex filled with passion, so what’s there not to love. On the other hand, you should try looking at it from a different perspective for a change.
You fight, get mad, and is it just us, or it’s getting hot in here? Instead, try to look at make-up sex as a celebration. After you have worked through your differences, it’s time for a celebratory round of sex. Wouldn’t that be so much better? You solve problems, and you get laid.
Create a Sex Menu
This might seem strange to come, but it’s a fun game to play. Plus, it’s not just a game. Every week, you can come up with a new sex menu. So, what do you even do with that? The rules are pretty simple. Pretend you’re in a restaurant and you’re choosing a full-course meal. That means you need some appetizers, the main course, and dessert.
Appetizers are foreplay activities, so think of whatever both of you enjoy because you both get to choose from the menu. When it comes to the main course, it’s sex, but you can choose from different positions, for example. Dessert should represent what you do after sex. Here’s a sample of what it could look like:
- Appetizers: Nipple play, blindfolding, spanking, sensual massage, etc.
- Main course: Vaginal sex, oral sex, anal sex, toy play, etc. (Add different positions!)
- Dessert: Cuddling, taking a nap, preparing favorite food, etc.
Make a Body Map of One Another
For this step, you don’t need to make a literal map of your partner’s body. Like all others, this step is simple and requires a bit of communication. It’s all about getting to know each other’s bodies well. You can do this in two ways: through conversations or through exploration of your own.
Not every person is good with words. If that’s the case for you and your partner, explore each other’s bodies through touch. That doesn’t need to be sexual at all. What it does is lets you know what your partner’s erogenous zones are and what feels good to them in general.
Once you’ve learned everything, it’s time to put your knowledge to the test. You’ll notice that you’re now pleasing your partner in ways you’ve never thought of before.
Don’t Discount the Importance of Non-Sexual Touch
Not every activity has to be sexual to enrich your sex lives. The key is building intimacy levels up so that you can enjoy each other better. That’s why you shouldn’t dismiss the importance of non-sexual touch.
Giving each other a massage counts as non-sexual touching. Well, it can become sexual if you want it to, but this activity is intrinsically innocent. The same applies to cuddling and caressing. You can caress your partner’s breasts or butt, and it still doesn’t need to be sexual. Do it more, and you’ll be on the path of better sex.
Resurrecting your sex life isn’t as difficult as it seems. All you need is to put some time and effort into it. After all, sex is an important part of every relationship. So, don’t let it simply disappear.